My dad called me on a Wednesday, asking me to him with his email as it was not working. I was in a rush that day and I told him that I didn’t have time, and I will attend to it on Saturday.
My dad passed away on Friday, two days after I was too busy to attend to his needs. The Friday was one week away from when my wife and I were supposed to fly back home to spend Christmas with him.
Have you called and spoken to your parents today?
I learned this painful lesson the hard way. Until today I regret not attending to his call, attending to his need, always thinking that my time is more important.
Soon afterwards, I left the country I was working in and returned home to spend time with mum, who was aging gracefully.
If I could turn back time, I would do the following
Make regular quality time a priority
Consistently set aside dedicated time to spend with your parents, even if it’s just for short periods. This could involve weekly dinners, regular phone calls, or planned visits. Quality time doesn’t necessarily mean long durations, but rather focused, meaningful interactions.
Create and preserve memories
Engage in activities that create lasting memories with your parents. This could include taking family vacations, celebrating special occasions together, or simply documenting everyday moments through photos or videos. These shared experiences will be treasured long after they’re gone.
Show appreciation and express love
Actively demonstrate your love and gratitude for your parents. This can be done through verbal expressions, thoughtful gestures, or small acts of kindness. Don’t assume they know how you feel – make it a point to tell them and show them regularly.
Seek their advice and wisdom
Take the time to ask your parents for guidance and listen to their life experiences. This not only shows that you value their input but also allows you to learn from their wisdom. Ask them to share stories about their lives and the lessons they’ve learned.
Involve them in your life
Keep your parents involved and informed about your life, including your challenges, successes, and everyday experiences. Share your goals and aspirations with them, and include them in important life events. This helps maintain a strong connection and makes them feel valued and included.
At the end of the day, at your death bed, you wont be thinking about work, or money. You will be regretting the times you didn’t spend together. You will be regretting your loved ones. You will be crying within about the things you wished you did for others when you were capable off.
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